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Writer's Block: Pecking Order

Are you an oldest, youngest, middle, or only child? How do you think it has influenced your personality?


Oldest. I think it left me more independent. I have no idea what it would've been like having an older sibling. I doubt it would've made much difference, it was other things that made my childhood so rough I wouldn't wish anything like it on my worst enemy.
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ofinsea
Aug. 20th, 2009 05:56 am (UTC)
That's interesting. I am the youngest (of 2) and I am far more independent. My partner is also the youngest of 2 and far more independent. I wonder if this means nothing or if there is a generational component or who knows what else...
robertsloan2
Aug. 20th, 2009 09:46 am (UTC)
Considering we're close to the same age group, you might be on to something. People always say that the oldest is more independent but I think other things affected me more in childhood than birth order. I'm glad to see that is not so big a factor.

My disabilities and some religious-political differences between me and my birth family were much bigger gaps. I could not trust the judgment of anyone who was ever in charge of me. So I learned to be independent and trust my own judgment. That break came at an early age.

I've found out since that it wasn't just because I had a high IQ. That only mattered in childhood anyway when people get sorted by age on very narrow lines. Early maturity is more something that comes out of harsh conditions.

I think the specifics of the family have a lot more to do with it than birth order per se. I'm not sure if it was even because my family and I didn't get along -- or if that independence would've been there even if they were entirely supportive and accepting. It might have been a reaction to my disabilities themselves, a driving need to do things myself and not have to wait, ask people or be dependent on them for anything.

The freedoms adults had seemed enormous, so wonderful. I could not understand while I was underage how many people when they had so much freedom in life would just march off lockstep and do exactly what they were told as soon as anyone told them what to do. I still don't completely understand that desire for a leader, that some people have this longing to be told what to do and are relieved if someone tells them what to do.

I think I'm tackling that in my next novel in some ways, it's a cool theme.
bunny_wabbitt
Aug. 21st, 2009 01:49 am (UTC)
Ha! I always wanted an older brother. I offered to trade in my younger one. As soon as I learned the word 'retrofit,' I was always asking Mom to retrofit an older brother for me. She said we couldn't afford him.
robertsloan2
Aug. 21st, 2009 11:03 pm (UTC)
LOL that sounds funny! Still, I don't think an older brother would've really helped in my situation. He'd have just been one more person trying to boss me around and I wouldn't have put up with that.
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