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Antisocial or not?

Reading an article on Discovery News that people who show embarrassment are perceived as more trustworthy, I thought it was interesting.

Embarrassment Article

The study mentioned that people who show embarrassment are seen as more prosocial and test higher on a scale of whether they're prosocial - whether they care what others think of them.

So what do you think of this? Do you trust people who show their embarrassment more than people who blow it off and won't admit it if they put their foot in their mouth?

Everyone has moments they're embarrassed about. But if this study is true, it also makes you seem more trustworthy and sympathetic.

It's also definitely true in fiction - a hero or heroine who never does anything embarrassing gets annoying, while their bloopers make them sympathetic and endearing. So this may be someting to keep in mind as Nanowrimo rolls around.
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faunhaert
Oct. 4th, 2011 09:34 pm (UTC)
maybe some one being embarrassed opens up the heart
of the observer to allow for compassion?

some of the indicators they mention is shyness
and if the same person watching is compassionate
it makes for friendship

its when a person reads it as embarrassment and brushes it away
with out compassion the opportunity for interactive connection is lost.
robertsloan2
Oct. 5th, 2011 12:47 am (UTC)
That makes sense. When someone else is embarrassed there's a natural tendency to remember the times I've been embarrassed and feel for them. But if I lacked empathy I wouldn't have that reaction and might not have been embarrassed at all.
faunhaert
Oct. 5th, 2011 02:06 am (UTC)
sadly folks with frontal lobe damage
can't read signals or empathize

they get catagorized as sociopaths
if you catch them
they are very good at looking normal

i'd like to read you writings
please where can i find them?


robertsloan2
Oct. 5th, 2011 05:29 am (UTC)
There are people with plenty of empathy who just can't read signals - anyone with Asperger's can't read body language. They have to learn it consciously like a foreign language in order to communicate effectively. Lack of empathy is something else.

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I've also got topical blogs at Blogger: Rob's Art Supply Reviews, Rob's Art Lessons and Rob's Writing. I've been settling in here in San Francisco and working on building up a schedule where I update these blogs weekly with new articles. Enjoy!
faunhaert
Oct. 5th, 2011 12:01 pm (UTC)
I think i have a copy of Raven Dance,
is it an audio book yet?
its packed away in my library that's
not found room out of the box yet

you did well to move
i've still not moved in
maybe because i want to move on?
naw the house is still underwork
and i don't want dust on everything
robertsloan2
Oct. 7th, 2011 07:09 am (UTC)
Makes sense to me to wait till the construction and sawdust are gone. Sorry, Raven Dance isn't an audio book yet. I may read it aloud someday though. Just been so busy doing other things. Purr thanks!

I am so glad I moved here. I love it here. The weather is so much better that I'm accomplishing a lot more even on bad days.
faunhaert
Oct. 5th, 2011 12:12 pm (UTC)
asperges is different than psychopath-sociopath-narcissistic personality
brain might look similar though

I've been fortunate to read and see temple grandin
she's amazing. would be interesting to see how she socializes
not all aspergers is the same it presents itslef in a millionways.

fandom & geekdom has social misfits just from lack of social interaction,

robertsloan2
Oct. 7th, 2011 07:11 am (UTC)
Totally. I brought it up only to mention that there's a different condition that blocks recognition of body language and reading emotion. I suspect some sociopaths read body language perfectly well - they just don't care about anyone else.

You're right that Aspergers presents in many different ways.

Fandom and geekdom does attract social misfits, I suspect because of the acceptance - a misfits' group that doesn't criticize on being different.
faunhaert
Oct. 5th, 2011 12:55 pm (UTC)
"http://robs-writing.com/" is missing the blogspot part

as for science fiction not being popular,
hows a person who doesn't sell books really know what is popular?
grumble
its like the question "why don't you make things that sell "
is what i got when i did art shows-
mom wants me to reproduce what she see's other folks selling at an art show
she didn't see the shows those folks sold nothing. and i know they had those days.

art shows are a gamble you make things some days they sell some days, you pack em up.
But, the booth that has some one complaining about lack of sales sells even less.
Get out of my booth I'd have to say that person- be it another artist or hubby.
people do not buy art out of pity ... they avoid the booth.
some how its like after they hear the words, the art is seen as poor quality or damaged.
robertsloan2
Oct. 7th, 2011 07:18 am (UTC)
You're spot on about that. People respond to social cues. If you get a sale, more customers will flock to get theirs while you're drawing for that customer. It can build on itself either way.

You're also right about people saying "What sells" when they don't even sell books. If they read an article with statistics that said X subject sold two and a half million copies and Y subject only one and a half million subjects, that's still a whole lot of Y readers if that's what you enjoy writing.

Every individual writer creates a niche for his or her own work, it may or may not fit well in a genre definition.

I think a lot of nonartists, nonwriters say things like that based on what they would personally buy if any. Or on who they want you to be rather than who you are. It's a discouraging argument that has as little connection to reality as "no one makes a living at (creative work of choice)." Obviously some people make a good living at it because their works are everywhere.

For many people, a lot of things in life are scripted. They know what you're going to say (or think they do) and respond with the lines they've been taught by family, classmates, cultural context. When anyone deviates from the script, it's uncomfortable because they have to pay more attention and consciously decide what to say instead of defaulting to a comfortable script.

A lot of these memes and tropes get passed down for generations unquestioned, even if they contradict each other or are self destructive. ("Die young and leave a pretty corpse.")
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